Genesis 42:36 (New American Standard Bible - NASB)
36 Their father Jacob said to them, “You have bereaved me of my children: Joseph is no more, and Simeon is no more, and you would take Benjamin; all these things are against me.”
Bitterness and grief can cut us off from life and not allow us to see what God wants to do. Yes wisdom is necessary but when grief and bitterness fill our hearts, especially years after an event, there is little room to see the provision of God. For as the story goes, Jacob is about to have his family reunited not torn a part. Oh that we might see life through the eyes of God and trust him for everything.